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“If you don't want a marriage like the majority of marriages, then stop dating like the majority of daters! Looking for the right person is essential; it's just not enough. Of course our sexual compatibility outstrips our relational compatibility. " To which your partner will say (assuming he or she hasn't read this fascinating book), "Don't you mean, I'm one in a million? This "tell me something I don't already know" insight underscores why experimenting sexually to ensure you've found the right person is a bad idea. In fact, you would have ended the relationship sooner if you hadn't been sexually involved. You shouldn't apply it until you're absolutely sure you're ready to stick two things together permanently.” —Andy Stanley Also includes a four-session small group discussion guide to be used with The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating video (sold separately). There's more to a satisfying relationship than finding the right person. It's this undervalued side of the equation that keeps romance romantic. If you can't wait, feel free to flip or swipe ahead ... " To which you can say, "No, you're one of a million. Apply it too soon, and you'll have a mess once you realize your mistake. Conversations don't come with backspace buttons, so how do we prevent our big mouths from getting us in big trouble next time? Jesus’ resurrection launched a series of events that introduced the world to his new covenant and new hope. We were told everything in it was true and we should do our best to abide by its teachings. Maybe you developed a framework of faith based on personal experience. Too often, a faith formed in childhood isn't strong enough to withstand the pressures of adult life.
Today, NPM consists of six churches in the Atlanta area and a network of more than 90 churches around the globe that collectively serve nearly 185,000 people weekly. Problem is, we don't hear much about the more side of the relational equation. There are a number of factors, among them beauty, talent, confidence, intelligence, depth, wit, family, wealth, weight, height, career, and personality. But at the end of the day, our lists are not the deciding factors, are they? But as I'm fond of saying, falling in love is easy; it requires a pulse. When a relationship feels right, it's a powerful thing. It's no wonder that the righter a relationship feels, the quicker we are tempted to take things further. Not only is sex not the litmus test for relational compatibility, it actually inhibits and distracts from relational development. Because sex has the capacity to camouflage an endless list of relational deficiencies and dysfunctions.In this book, Andy Stanley takes an very direct approach by presenting the facts, anecdotes, and pastoral advice aimed at breaking the cycle of broken relationships.He addresses our propensity for mistaking sexual capability with relationship compatibility, the falsehood that we can change the behaviors of others, the importance of preparing ourselves for the marriage, [for men] what it means to be a gentleman – not just a man, and finally a thorough definition of a love worth having and holding onto.CHAPTER 1THE RIGHT PERSON MYTHAt the center of every great love story are two people who are right for each other, destined to be together. Three hundred pages or a hundred and twenty minutes later they've figured out what we knew all along, leaving us entertained and, in some cases, inspired by their story. In the case of these two reality Tv shows, we don't know who's right for whom until the end. But it's possible you've embraced the underlying premise that holds these story lines and episodes together. A good many divorced men and women had already located right person 2.0 while in the process of divorcing right person 1.0. You may not believe there's one right person for you, but you are looking for the right person. When you're physically attracted to someone and there's that extra something we will refer to as chemistry, it just feels right, doesn't it? Show me a couple who are attracted to each other and share that certain something, and I'll show you a couple convinced they are right for each other. Sex distorts positive and negative traits in a partner.