Sex and dating after 40
Being chronically out of energy can trigger a sex drive dip, so ask your doctor to check your thyroid levels and test you for anemia, says Mc Grath.
And look at your lifestyle: Maybe you need to pare down your commitments and get better sleep by regulating your bedtime and removing un-sexy (and rest-interfering) TVs and computers from your bedroom.
Truth: Tell that to the legion of late-life moms toting their beloved "oops" babies!
"It's hard to know exactly when you'll stop ovulating, even if you're in the middle of perimenopause," says Dr. "To check when you can skip protection, your doctor can do a blood test." The level of follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) in your blood canreveal whether you're still fertile, but levels fluctuate during perimenopause, so even a low FSH level may be misleading. Menopause isn't official until you've gone a full year without a period, says Mc Grath. You still have to protect against sexually transmitted diseases, so use condoms until you're sure about your partner's past.
Most people over 40 are established in their lives, with steady careers and families.
Here are the ways dating is different when you are 40 and over.
), or the fact that leading TV and movie roles turn more to the matronly than the hot as actresses age, myths about a more mature women's sexuality abound. And sure, you won't without sex; it's not food or water.
"We silently believe that only young people have sex," says Maureen Mc Grath, RN, a sex-health educator and radio host. But that doesn't mean you need it any less than other things that bring joy, satisfaction and better emotional and physical health.
Myth 7: Things that once turned you on no longer work because of your age.
Truth: "This is more a fact of a long relationship than aging," says Mc Grath. Have a whole range of moves in your sexual arsenal because different things turn you on not just in different stages of life but on different days! Did you recently get a promotion at work and are feeling good about yourself? It's never too late to explore what turns you on, says Mc Grath.
Forty may be the new 30, but considering the misconceptions about women's sexuality and desirability after a "certain age," you'd think 40 was the new 80!