Speed dating sex
I think at least one reason sociosexual men do better in speed dating is because they don't take the proceedings too seriously. Someone who's relaxed and willing to take chances on flirting, light teasing, or engaging in off-the-wall humor, or someone who treats a meet and greet like a job interview?
This brings to mind many mistakes I've seen shy men make, either mistakes made by my friends or by men who were trying to date me.
There's some new research on speed dating, coming from researchers in Germany (Asendorpf, Penke, and Back, in press).
They set up a speed-dating event and invited a total of 382 people (190 men and 192 women) who were aged 18-54 to participate.
To women, being desired for simply having a pulse is an insult, and I refuse to believe that most men don't feel the same way.
Interesting article and study overall but in the end, it seems the conclusion is simply that dating is a numbers game, and whether it be Speed Dating or some other means, it's a matter of making enough interactions (meeting new people) to at some point find someone you see some potential with.
Also, since shyness is correlated with neuroticism, shy individuals may have come across as socially anxious, which may have made their dating partner feel uncomfortable.
The popularity of the speed-dater was also positively related to the choosiness of that speed-dater, although the correlation was only significant among men (perhaps due to the fact that women on average were choosier than men).
The short time period of interaction could skew the results as you have 3 minutes to make a judgment call on someone and you have to take everything at face value so you can be a total narcissistic a-hole but you don't have to let them know that for 3 minutes.
They were followed-up by the researchers six weeks and 12 months after the speed-dating session.